On Monday night, I was reminded that kids are really easy to please. We, as adults, often make it complicated by showering them with expensive toys, jam-packed schedules filled with extra-curricular activities, drawers full of video games, the latest high-tech gadgets and more; when all they really want is quality time with us.
I was reminded of this fact on Labor Day. We got back home from grocery shopping around 7:30 p.m., so I immediately went into mommy mode to get all the kids fed. The boys finished eating first and headed upstairs to play and get ready for bed. I stayed downstairs to finish feeding baby girl. After a few minutes of playing, Samuel comes downstairs and asks me to come upstairs and sit next to him. “Mama, I want you. Come play with us.”
Being the perfect mother that I am (Not!), I responded with something to the effect of, “Not now, I have to finish feeding your sister. I’ll be up as soon as I’m done.”
Of course, by the time I finished feeding baby girl, I remembered the groceries that were still sitting out. As I was putting everything away, Samuel comes downstairs again. “Mama, can you come up here and watch the movie with us?”
“In just a few minutes, Samuel. I have to put the groceries away. I’ll be up as soon as I’m done.”
What I failed to factor in, however, is that putting away the groceries is never a quick process for me. As I’m putting away all the new items, I like to take that time to also wipe down the fridge and freezer, throw away spoiled food and reorganize the pantry as I go. Needless to say, by the time I finished, it was way past the boys’ bedtime.
Such a simple request–Mama, I want you. Yet, I was so fixated on my to do’s that I nearly missed an opportunity to spend quality time with my kids. (Fortunately, dad was in charge of putting the kids to bed, so they stayed up later than normal.)
In life, there are things that are important, but not urgent; and things that are urgent, but not important.
Putting away dairy products that had been sitting out for awhile may have been urgent, but it’s certainly not the most important thing. Spending time with my kids–that’s what’s really important.
Anyone else get caught up in doing? How do you remind yourself to take time to spend with your family?
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